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๐—ฆ๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐— ๐—˜ ๐— ๐—˜ ๐— ๐—˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ฎ

Yes we need it, Yes we donโ€™t need it.

๐“๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐ž๐ž ๐ฌ๐ข๐๐ž๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ - ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ, ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก.

There are equally as many benefits as there are dis-advantages. But what I want to address is the anxiety around it and the things not to take notice of in order to avoid and eliminate the anxiety associated with it. I was talking to a friend lately who is just totally caught up on the numbers, the howโ€™s, the whyโ€™s and the what ifโ€™s. Whilst I post a lot of what I do on it, I actually donโ€™t spend too much time on it myself, but I am more mindful of my approach towards it and tend to take no notice once I press the publish button.

We are supposed to be more connected, but at times itโ€™s like we are more disconnected. We are connecting with the outside (๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—น) world and forgetting whatโ€™s inside our own doors, (in our own ๐™จ๐™ค๐™˜๐™ž๐™–๐™ก presence) - our friends, our family, our lives. We have lost our connection to ourselves, when you find yourself looking at someone talking about something you actually have no interest in but yet you still watch - then this is where you have crossed a line, look at what you could be doing with that time with yourself.

As a business, yes you need it, it is essential in this day and age, itโ€™s free advertising, is a brilliant educational tool and provides you with a brilliant platform to showcase what you do, advertise your classes/products/services. You have to set a boundary as well though, you are too accessible on your mobile - donโ€™t spend 9-12 hours at work and come home spending another few hours answering dms, making videos or writing posts.

Set a limit, ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ง๐™  ๐™๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง๐™จ ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ง๐™  ๐™๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง๐™จ, ๐™๐™ค๐™ข๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ข๐™š ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™๐™ค๐™ข๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ข๐™š.

๐—ฆ๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐— ๐—˜ ๐— ๐—˜ ๐— ๐—˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ฎ - donโ€™t look for or rely on recognition from social media posts to value your worth or presence. Do not compare the way you are, or what you are doing to what you are seeing on peopleโ€™s posts or stories. This is only what they are letting you see, not what or who they are behind the scenes.

๐—•๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—น๐—ณ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฎ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ - Know who you follow and why, donโ€™t just follow someone just because everyone else does. I was following a local who preaches all this be kind, know yourself, blah blah blah and yet this person knows me and would walk past me on the street. I was like why am I even following this person or engaging with their content when itโ€™s false and they wonโ€™t even say hi to me on the street, I was just a number to ๐™—๐™ช๐™ก๐™  ๐™ช๐™ฅ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ž๐™ง ๐™€๐™‚๐™Š.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ป๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€ - people get too carried away on the numbers, who needs to see your post will see it. If I write something and it helps one person, thatโ€™s enough for me, if it helps 10 people, thatโ€™s enough for me, if it helps no one but myself, thatโ€™s enough for me.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€, who needs you will find you. You will get all the emails to buy followers, but why buy a false following that wonโ€™t engage with what you do. Lot of them are false accounts or bots. Where does your credibility stand when you can have thousands of followers but donโ€™t have the likes on a post to match.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐˜€ - there are numerous reasons for this

๐™ฟ๐š›๐š’๐šŸ๐šŠ๐šŒ๐šข - People mightnโ€™t want others knowing what they are into.

๐™น๐šŽ๐šŠ๐š•๐š˜๐šž๐šœ๐šข -There is the element of jealousy where they wonโ€™t press that like button because they are jealous of you.

๐™ฒ๐š˜๐š–๐š™๐šŽ๐š๐š’๐š๐š’๐š˜๐š— - there is the element of competition for businesses where people in the same area of expertise wonโ€™t like incase it takes away from them.

๐™ฝ๐š˜ ๐š’๐š—๐š๐šŽ๐š›๐šŽ๐šœ๐š - People just arenโ€™t into what you are.

๐™ฟ๐šข๐š›๐šŠ๐š–๐š’๐š ๐š‚๐šŒ๐š‘๐šŽ๐š–๐šŽ๐šœ๏ผŒ ๐™ฒ๐š˜๐š–๐š–๐šž๐š—๐š’๐š๐š’๐šŽ๐šœ ๐šŠ๐š—๐š ๐™ฝ๐šŽ๐š๐š ๐š˜๐š›๐š”๐š’๐š—๐š - part of the parcel of being part of groups where they all support each other but not anyone else.

๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„๐˜€ - back to the numbers, some posts will get lots of likes, others mightnโ€™t even get one. Donโ€™t worry about it -๐™”๐™ค๐™ช ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™ฃ๐™ช๐™ข๐™—๐™š๐™ง๐™จ.

๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐—น๐˜๐˜€ - a lot of it is not real, people spend hours making videos and re-editing them, itโ€™s a job, white washing what they do, to sell their product, sell themselves and sell their lฬถiฬถeฬถsฬถ lives.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜†๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ.

๐˜ผ๐™ฃ๐™œ๐™ก๐™š๐™จ, ๐™‡๐™ž๐™œ๐™๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™‹๐™ค๐™จ๐™š๐™จ mean everything, you catch someone at the wrong or right angle and you can read what you are seeing completely different to they way it actually is.

๐—ง๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜†๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฎ ๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜ - a lot of people will say and post stuff that isnโ€™t true, itโ€™s white washed to make them feel better and look good, not to make you feel better, itโ€™s to make you think you need to be or do different to what you do, or that you need what they have. You will know the ones that are real.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜†๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด - why do you feel that you have to post everything. Let go of the habit or the feeling of needing to post to engage to make you feel good. Only post when you have something that you feel really needs to be posted, not just to showcase a picture of what you are going to eat.

๐—ž๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ฒ and donโ€™t worry about what isnโ€™t - know where is it that you need to advertise to, if you are a local business, do not worry if people at the other side of the world donโ€™t like your post or if people that your business isnโ€™t aimed towards donโ€™t engage with you.

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